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How do I define Developmental Coaching?
Life is a constant developmental process in every area of life. The absolute essence of our being is based on experiencing and developing. We make new experiences of any kind and grow through them. Progress – or development – is our motivation. If we lack goals or potential for development, we often feel empty and demotivated. Typical signs of a developmental standstill are that we:
› make no headway in certain areas of life,
› feel lonely,
› feel like we will never reach our dreams/visions,
› struggle with (latent) dissatisfaction,
› are often unhappy,
› see no perspective,
› struggle with health issues,
› maneuver ourselves into the same undesired situations time and again,
› see no way to evolve,
› believe that our situation is other people’s fault, and we can or will not take responsibility,
› are convinced that we are who we are and cannot change our character traits,
› chase a potential,
› live in unsatisfactory relationships,
› are involuntary long-time singles or stumble from one unhappy relationship to the next,
› remain in an unsatisfactory job,
› generally don’t get going.
The only and sustainable way to break those destructive dynamics is to evolve as a person. To put it simply: We can only achieve a higher «level of life» if we have understood and solved the challenges and issues in our way. Only then can more fitting partners, new friends, a more interesting job etc. appear in our lives.
WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR US TO RECOGNIZE THE CAUSES FOR OUR BEHAVIOR IN CERTAIN AREAS OF LIFE?
We humans are equipped with a subjective perception and see reality through a perceptive filter. This filter is dynamic and builds on external influences and impressions as well as the resulting experiences and insights (dogmas). To put it another way: Every human being possesses their own reality. This can be seen as being at the mercy of our subjective filter, as we often do not even notice it (it is what it is). Therefore, we experience our lives through a filter that continuously distorts the objective reality. We create our own truth and believe for example that it is normal for us to be unhappy or to be simply unable to have a relationship.
Confronted with this subjective reality, it is easy for us to get caught in our own perception and subliminally accept the unwanted reality. This can lead to resentment and even a depression.
Because the feelings and thoughts that we experience due to reality can be reflected, we are not at the mercy of our own truth. My approach is to make these thoughts, feelings and the underlying needs conscious and derive the necessary changes from them.
There are countless practical guides, manuals, concepts, textbooks, courses, and online trainings that can support us on our way of personal development. I have read a lot of books, tried approaches, attended coaching and have grown through them. From my personal experience, however, I have noticed that such assistance is only effective if they are applied in the right place. This is where I you can benefit from me – recognizing the destructive causes and patterns and starting in the right place.
My high sensitivity and bottom-up coaching competences allow me to meet people’s needs in an empathic, differentiated manner and look behind the “mask”. My passion to understand the true reasons for our behavior, combined with a healthy sense of pragmatism, is a valuable gift to support people’s development.